Keeping the romance going in your marriage


Keeping the romance going in your marriage

No one said marriage was easy but experts say dating your spouse can help keep the romance alive.

Vince and Krystina Shirey strapped themselves in for the long haul seven years ago.

They're married with a house full of children.

Life put up roadblocks and the romance stalled.

"That love and affection we felt for each other it wasn't new anymore," said Krystina Shirey.

The Shireys say time just for each other turned into a necessity.

"We kind of were feeling tension in the marriage," said Krystina Shirey.

Deidre Prewitt with Reconnecting Columbus councils married couples.

She says relationships take a back seat as many struggle with balancing family life.

"They're just passing one another in the night and of the day they flop on the bed and go to sleep and they don't ever really talk to each other," said Prewitt.

Prewitt says couples should make it a priority to connect with each other.

"They have to realize they're showing their children what they're relationship looks like good, bad or indifferent," said Prewitt.

A couple of years into the Shirey's marriage, Krystina and Vince took a shot at adding date night to their family calendar. Once a week, they focus on their relationship.

"When we're on date night I'm worried about him and he's worried about me," said Krystina.

Prewitt says even taking 15 minutes a day to shut out the rest of the world can make a difference.

"It's about finding that person in this new grown up finding that person you originally wanted to spend the rest of your life with," said Prewitt.

Vince and Krystina look for things to do that are interactive.

We followed them on one date night to Grand Prix Karting.

They try to stay consistent with their weekly ritual.

"God forbid we miss a couple of weeks I think I could have a bad attitude or she could have a bad attitude it's mostly me," said Vince Shirey.

As the two steer toward a healthy and happy life together.

"Continue to ask her to do things eventually it'll reciprocate and you're rekindle that love from when you first got together," said Vince Shirey.

Prewitt says couples should consider counseling to find a way back to what they once had but don't wait years to get started.

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